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Vague question

Posted on 2006.01.07 at 21:17
Current Mood: curiouscurious
Current Music: Pavement - Fin
I need advice. Is it better to regret something you have done, or something you haven't done?

Comments:


kvetchingeditor at 2006-01-08 02:21 (UTC) (Link)
I refuse to regret anything. And I'm completely serious about that ... regrets are a waste of your time and energy.

But if I had to choose ... something you have. Something you haven't done still has a choice : )
Jonathan
theservant at 2006-01-08 02:23 (UTC) (Link)
Interesting take. I did it, so maybe that should tell you something.
uberconfused
uberconfused at 2006-01-08 02:25 (UTC) (Link)
no vaguery allowed

Will I regret bailing on the party I'm sitting here dressed to go to? Almost certainly not.

I agree with the first commenter that regret is a waste of time. However, I do lots of things that waste time. So I'll say: I have very few regrets, and those I do have are for things I didn't do.
Jonathan
theservant at 2006-01-08 02:27 (UTC) (Link)
Why are you bailing on the party? You should post pics of you all dolled up. Is that why you have all those pinup icons now?
gerbilsage at 2006-01-08 03:04 (UTC) (Link)
Not doing something is doing something, so your questions are the same.

- M.
Jonathan
theservant at 2006-01-08 03:06 (UTC) (Link)
Wu-wei!
Hermione Granger
gimmelgirl at 2006-01-08 03:10 (UTC) (Link)
As long as no one gets hurt by whatever it is, I say better to regret having done something than missing an opportunity. I have a number of missed-opportunity regrets. I also have many things that maybe didn't work out in the end, but I know that I tried them and didn't let the opportunity pass me by.
Jonathan
theservant at 2006-01-08 03:11 (UTC) (Link)
Does Chazal say anything about it?
Heather
herspace at 2006-01-08 04:41 (UTC) (Link)
I dont know. I have regrets over things Ive done, and havent done.

I also know that there are consequences either way.

So just be careful.
Jonathan
theservant at 2006-01-08 04:42 (UTC) (Link)
Sage advice! Thanks!
lithiumlady at 2006-01-08 05:22 (UTC) (Link)
Something you've done. Never wonder always experience. No day, but today.
Jonathan
theservant at 2006-01-08 05:44 (UTC) (Link)
Thanks!
Lousy with your good time...
galut_boded at 2006-01-08 08:38 (UTC) (Link)
Something you have done.

Regretting lost oppertunities is so much worse.

I've done bad things I regret... but I feel I get to move away from them, and when that oppertunity arises again, I can redeem myself.

But the chances you lose, you lose forever.
devils_mouth at 2006-01-08 13:42 (UTC) (Link)
Always regret what you've done other than wonder what could have been.
Jonathan
theservant at 2006-01-08 13:46 (UTC) (Link)
That seems to be the general consensus. Thanks! Can't wait to see the pics from your party!
Myp3uK
sputnik5 at 2006-01-08 16:57 (UTC) (Link)
Yep, better to regret something you've done (unless it involves serious harm to self or others.) At least this way you know what it is you are regretting:)
davidfcooper.com
davidfcooper at 2006-01-08 19:52 (UTC) (Link)
I have more regret for things I have done that have hurt others than for things I haven't done that might have benefited me. & I think חזל would have agreed with those criteria.
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